The guides suggested this topic, though, this is what I am clearing at the moment. Let’s see what they have to teach us.
Who will be our teacher for this topic? Seraphim, my angelic guides, will be our teacher for this message. To learn more about me, as the channel, and the guides, please read our About page. If you are new to my channeling, I’ve compiled a glossary if you need to look up certain terms the guides use. All channeled material is in italics. It is exactly what I hear in my head, verbatim.
Seraphim: You all live in a society that teaches you that love is earned. It is true that in some family structures, there has been a learning at the ancestral level that love is not earned, however, for the vast majority of familial structures at this point in time in your plane, there is an underlying belief that love is earned. I will be a good kid so that my parents will love me. I will get good grades and my parents will love me. I will marry someone my parents approve of. I will go to that dinner party of my inner circle and I will behave in such a way as to be accepted so that they will love me. We could go on and on but by and large within the family and friend structure within your plane there is a fundamental misunderstanding of love and in this message we want to correct that.
So, what is love? Love is eternal. Love is constant. Love is a vibration. Love is the alpha and the omega. Love is you when you are being the monad that you are. Love does not waver and it does not have favorites. Love is you when you are acting out of love as we describe it here. Love is given, not earned. Love is received. Love is a space. Love is love.
Now, what is NOT love? Let us say, for whatever reason, you lost your job. Do you berate yourself? Do you love yourself less because you have lost your job? Do you think less of yourself because you have suddenly found yourself unemployed? Do you respect yourself less because you have to find a new source of income? If you answered yes to any of these questions, that is NOT love. Do you see this? We told you prior that Love is constant. So, what does that mean? That means you feel the same about yourself when you have a high paying job as compared to when you lose that same high paying job and no longer have a source of income. It means that if you are at the definition of rock bottom, you feel the same about yourself as when you are at your best. Now, we hope you understand precisely how challenging it is to love oneself. When people are at rock bottom, they usually feel like they are at rock bottom. However, we will tell you a little trick. Rock bottom is a portal to a quantum leap. If you can be at rock bottom and be grateful for being at rock bottom because it is giving you the fresh start or new beginning you could not have mustered with your own free will, then you will make a quantum leap to your dreams. Being grateful for being at rock bottom is how you show self love to yourself when you are in a situation or circumstance you do not prefer. Do you see this? It is how you prove to yourself that you are no engaged in conditional love for in being grateful for rock bottom, it proves to the aspect of you that does not feel your unconditional love that you do not love them IF. That is, you love them regardless of where they feel they are at. Do you understand this?
Often times it is when people are at rock bottom that they begin to learn what self love truly feels like for in being grateful for this situation or circumstance that you do not prefer, you begin to understand that no amount of having this or that will make you feel better about yourself. You will feel better when you give yourself that self love. Do you see this? Your love for self isn’t conditioned on some situation or circumstance happening, it is constant no matter what is happening in your life. This is what self love looks like.
What we want to teach you now is how humans sometimes confuse validation with love. We gave you these phrases in the beginning of this message that while not always said out loud is what is meant by the actions taken by individuals who accomplish those things. Do you understand this? It is that we used the parent child relationship as an example, predominantly, but when we are speaking of self love, it is that you are the parent and the child at the same time. As we said before, do you like yourself more because you got a promotion than if you were denied one? Do you berate yourself if you didn’t get that promotion, despite knowing you gave it your all? When you do these things, it is that you are not just unconditionally self loving, you are also confounding validation with love. Do you see this? When you love yourself when you are validated, you are confounding the two things. If you love yourself more because you are in a relationship versus when you are single, you are confounding these two things. If you love yourself more when you are more educated than if you were less educated, then you are confounding these two things. Do you all see this? Your society often confounds validation with love and we are here to tell you that validation is not love because love is not earned. Do you understand this?
It is in the confounding of validation with love that humans begin to behave as if love is earned. Love is NOT earned. So, often times a husband will by flowers for their wives simply because they felt like it and this is unconditional love. Do you see this? When you buy yourself that dessert simply because today you tried your best, that is self love. When you treat yourself to a bath because you want to spend some quality time with yourself, that is self love. Doing these things that make you feel good just because is a good way to give yourself self love and in giving yourself unconditional love, you begin to break the unconscious belief that validation is love. When you break the connection, you begin to understand at your core that love is NOT earned. Do you see this?
Now, are we saying do not buy your wife flowers when she as done good? Or not to buy yourself that ice cream when you got a promotion? No, of course not. But, what we are saying is that you should not only do these things when there is something to validate, you should do these things for the simple reason that today you are filled with love and you want to manifest that feeling in the physical plane through some thoughtful action on your part. Do you understand this?
Now, we are also hearing in the matrix, should we not achieve in order to garner self love? Of course not. That is not what we are advising you for it is natural to want to achieve when you are incarnate in a human body. It is even natural to want to be validated. However, to be grounded in that validation, it is important not to treat yourself well ONLY when you are validated. Imagine this, you have a friend and this friend will only spend time with you when you have gotten a promotion, land a big client, or get a large bonus. How do you feel about this friend who appears to only care about you as a commodity? We bet, not well. Yet, that is precisely how some of you treat yourselves. You only celebrate you when you have been validated and this is when you begin to confound validation with love. It is important to celebrate you when you are successful and when you’ve failed. Do you understand why? It is that when you fail and you have tried your best, it is important to celebrate that you’ve tried your best and because you have tried your best, the universe has likely redirected you to that outcome that is something better. Do you see this? To be ungrateful of this redirection is to be unconscious that you deserve that something better. Do you understand this?
We are seeing in the matrix of creation that our message is well received. We wish to teach you one last thing and it is this idea that you are NOT a commodity. When you confound validation with love, often times what occurs in the energetic body is the energetic body begins to feel very transactional. In this transactional energy within the body, then the human begins to behave somewhat unconsciously transactional. This is why it is important not to confound love and validation. You are NOT a commodity to be bought and sold in some open market of your imagination. Do you understand this? Whether you are thinking of jobs or relationships, you are not some commodity to be ordered from good, better, best and then traded in some imagined market of your making. Do you understand this? You are a complex bundle of energy that deserves love no matter what space they are in. When you understand this and behave in such a way to honor yourself when you are validated and when you are not validated as we have taught you prior, you begin to break the unconscious belief that you are some commodity to be ordered from good, better, best.
So, we end this message by telling you that you are love when you behave from a space of love. When you have had a bad day, buy yourself ice cream. When you have had an uneventful day, buy yourself some flowers. When you have had a particularly phenomenal day, have a bath and treat yourself to a spa day. This is self love. When you treat yourself no matter what space you are in, simply to tell yourself that you care about you at this moment in time, this is self love. If you feel you are at rock bottom, start getting out of rock bottom today by being grateful of where you are. In this gratefulness, you will be assisted towards a quantum leap.
Now, we know what we are about to say will make the channel uncomfortable, but it must be said. These messages become possible because she has cleared these matters from the cellular level of the body. In her hard work of clearing energy, we are able to say the quiet part out loud for the benefit of all. So, in this recognition, we wish to thank her for her diligence for it was not easy for her to get here. She will tell you her story soon enough but for now it is enough that we honor her for finally understanding how to honor and love herself unconditionally.
We will sign off by saying call on our energies for support and it will be so. You are loved unconditionally always. Love yourself to feel the love that is you. And, so it is.
