The guides suggested this topic, so let’s see what they have to teach us about it. Before I begin, I want to share what I learned from my own almost four year long Dark Night of the Soul. At the tail end of it, I was at dinner with a good friend and I was telling her what I’ve been going through and I could feel that she felt a bit sorry for me. At the moment I felt that in her energy, it piqued something in my field and I realized that I didn’t feel sorry for myself or somehow regretted or resented all that transpired during my own dark night of the soul. I told her, ‘You know, this is the lowest I’ve been in my life, but I feel freer than ever before.’ To me, that was the gift that came out of all the clearings that transpired during this time of my life. At the moment I said that to my friend, I realized that’s self love. It’s at that moment that I finally understood that I didn’t need the “stuff” to love myself. That is, I didn’t need the career, or the recognition from my peers, or any of the prestige that I’ve been so driven my entire life to chase with abandon. It proved to me that I could just exist and still love myself unconditionally. I could go on and on about the benefits of an awakening, but the channeled transmission would never be completed. I do want to say this last thing: for most of my life I was a chaser and I told myself I was a dreamer but I was really a chaser in the sense that I didn’t really know why I wanted what I wanted, I just wanted it at all cost. That’s what it feels like when we are living through deeply wounded soul fragmentations. We want things, we don’t know why, but we feel like we are not enough if we don’t have it. Coming out of that cycle, releasing myself from that sort of gilded cage, that’s the best gift I have ever given myself.
Who will be our teacher for this topic? Seraphim, my angelic guides, will be our teacher for this message. To learn more about the guides, please read our About page. If you are new to my channeling, I’ve compiled a glossary if you need to look up certain terms the guides use. All channeled material is in italics. It is exactly what I hear in my head, verbatim.
Seraphim: We want to thank the channel at the onset for if she did not get here, this message could not be so. Her introduction is on point in the sense that what most of you are learning during the dark night of the soul is how to love yourself most unconditionally. Do you understand this? Humans have a bad habit of mistaking success for love, validation for love, being in a relationship as being in love, and, in general, conditioning oneself to believe that if you are accepted, you must be living your biggest possibility. You are living your biggest possibility when you listen to the whispers of your soul and when you are busy listening to the noise created when one panders to acceptance for acceptance’s sake, it’s hard to hear those whispers because you are busy talking over it. Do you see this? Sometimes, it is you that is busy talking over yourself and it is why you do not hear the centeredness of your soul. When you hit an event such as the Dark Night of the Soul, the high self allows it precisely because they need you to hear yourself over the noise and the noise is mostly created by a deeply wounded fragmented aspect of self.
When you are experiencing a Dark Night of the Soul, it is important to have compassion for oneself. Do you understand this? When one is having difficulty of any sort, it is easy to allow the ego and the intellectual mind to take over and begin solving problems. What will help you foremost is not to intellectualize the problem. Rather, what will give you near instant release is to sit still for roughly 10 minutes, this will allow the soul to calm down enough to access its centeredness, then take your focus towards your heart space, and set the intention to send your heart space compassion. Whatever you are feeling, whatever heaviness or badness you are feeling in the moment will dissipate when you do this exercise. Why does it work? Imagine yourself with a friend who feels quite triggered by some event in their life. Again, it is easy in this instance to join your friend and begin to intellectualize and problem solve whatever the triggering event is. However, what would be most helpful is to sit your friend down, ask them to be quiet for 10 minutes, and then instruct them to send compassion energy to their heart space while you join them in doing the same. In as much as it works when you do it for yourself, it also works when you do it for others. It works because compassion is the anecdote to deep wounding. This exercise alone will not meet the soul lesson, however, it is very efficacious in calming you down enough so that you can do the work of taking responsibility for the root cause of the Dark Night of the Soul.
This brings us to what will bring you ultimate relief and that is to take responsibility for whatever is the root cause of the triggering event that is manifesting as a dark night of the soul. This is difficult to teach in such a short article but we will try our best. It is difficult because the combinations of different soul lessons is practically infinite. We will do this by using the channel as an example because she is a good one and she has kindly volunteered at higher levels. What caused her dark night of the soul is the energy of abandonment in different forms, which included self-abandonment, abandonment by the parental figure, abandonment by the spouse or romantic partner, abandonment by community, and abandonment in the workplace. So, you can see here that you are meeting her at a time where she is premastery and coming through and meeting this soul lesson will equip her the energy of compassion to support others who are healing from abandonment. So, it is that all of this abandonment did not happen in this life, they occurred within her matrix of experience. What is, then, her responsibility to abandonment in this life? That is, how can she take responsibility for all of these things that she did not even directly experience in this life? She was called to take responsibility, foremost, by giving up the drive that served as self-abandonment in this life. Do you see this? She is where she is today precisely because she gave up a prestigious career, then she gave up a prestigious degree, and, with our guidance, she was brave enough not to fall in to the next thing that will give her an opportunity to abandon herself. Do you see this? So, she is an interesting and illustrative example because it is not what she did to take responsibility that freed her from the dark night of the soul. It is what she did not do, or rather what she stopped doing, that allowed her to meet the soul lesson of abandonment.
How do you find your own key out of the Dark Night of the Soul? As we said earlier, do the exercise of sending yourself compassion energy when you are triggered. When you are finally calmer, what you need to do is to tune in to your heart space and ask your heart space what your responsibility is to your particular experience. You will get an answer and when you get that answer acknowledge your responsibility to what your soul is telling you in this life. Do you understand this? You take responsibility by putting together what your soul is telling you and acknowledging in which ways it is a fit for this life. You may have to do this exercise several times to get through all of the energy. Remember what we said about the channel – she healed abandonment in roughly five areas. She did not do that in one shot, in fact, as she said in her introduction, it took her several years to unpack all of the energy that she accumulated over many, many lifetimes. So, for some of you, it will not take years for your soul lesson wasn’t repeated that many times. But for others of you, it may take you as long as the channel and in uncommon cases, perhaps longer, and that is because you may be mastering this soul lesson at a very nuanced level and because of that nuance, you are being called to become hyper aware within the soul lesson. This level of skill of awareness and discernment takes time to develop and that’s why sometimes clearing to awaken may take longer.
This is a lot of information in a very short message. There is much said here that require unpacking. Before we go, we want to reiterate what you learn during a dark night of the soul experience and that is you learn who you truly are and develop compassion for who you truly are. In developing compassion for yourself, you begin to see your oneness amongst everyone else. You will cease to see victims and perpetrators, rather, you will see individualized humanity having difficulty in seeing the divinity in the other. Fundamentally, that is what you are being called to do in a dark night of the soul. Whatever your experience, however difficult it may be for you, you are being called to see the divinity in yourself, the divinity in your perceived imperfections, the divinity in your perceived mistakes, the divinity in your perceived challenges, and so on and so on. When you are able to see the divinity in yourself at your worst, it becomes easier for you to see the divinity in others at their worst. When you see the divinity in yourself and in others, that is ONENESS. When you experience the level of compassion for which you see oneness, YOU BECOME A CHANNEL. Fundamentally, this is what this whole experience is about: to awaken you to the grandness of the totality of your soul and its gifts. And, so it is.
We will end this message rather unconventionally. Dark nights of the soul come in all shapes and sizes and levels of difficulty. It is important to understand that seeking assistance, not just the psychic or otherworldly sort, is important. If you feel pain, please see a doctor. If the feelings are too heavy for you to handle alone, a therapist or experienced healer may be in order. If there is discord within your relationships, a proper marriage and family therapist may assist you. Whatever situation you find yourself in, it is important for you to intuit the professional to procure rather than thinking about it intellectually. We will say this, you always know how to heal within the depths of your soul. When you call on our energies for assistance, we assist you to access your knowing. So, call on our energies for support and you will experience the magic that you are. We love you and we are supporting you through the ethers. Namaste.
